There was a woman I knew that expressed ‘some” interest in starting her own business. Her extent of expressing interest was just wishing she had one.


BUT, here’s the thing.


She would always talk about people that were actually successful. How does that work?


Her conversations would sound something like this:


“How come she is a national singer? I know I can sing better than her.”


“How come she seems to always have money?”


“How come she can own more than one business?”


Negativity came to her as easily as breathing.


Now, if you sat around her long enough, she was the type of person that would give you “the scoop” on everyone. Celebrity gossip. Real people gossip. She would be on Facebook ALL day running down everyone’s life in a matter of minutes.


But when it came down to doing ANYTHING for her business? She turned up with crickets and excuses each and every time.


I would offer her suggestions like “at least take the time to draft business cards” (so I would know how serious she really was).


Did she ever create those business cards? *crickets.*


Why is this story important?


Because she was blinded by her own insecurity.  She always forgot one key part to why everyone else was successful, and she was stuck.


They.  took.  action.


Good.  Bad.  Indifferent.  They took a leap of faith and just went for it.


The problem? She criticized THEIR leap…while she stood still.


Are you constantly indulging in a negative mindset and it’s keeping you stuck with your own success?


Here are 5 things you can do about it right now:


  1.  Change your mind(set).  Decide right now in this very moment that you’re up next.  Instead of worrying about who is successful and why it’s not you (right now), decide that today you’re taking a step in the direction of success.


  1.  Set up goals and a success plan.  A goal without a plan is just a wish.  Point blank.  If you’re just “hoping” for success, then don’t complain about it when it doesn’t happen if you didn’t even plan for it.  Set up small goals that will lead you to your success story.  The more you’re able to focus on what you hope to accomplish, the more likely you’ll be able to reach the level of success you want.


  1.  Take action.  It could be as simple as going to a networking event, creating your biz cards, putting up a one-page website.  A measurable step.  Something that you can actually see and mark as complete.  Something that will help you reach the big picture goal.  Something that will cause you to focus more on you…and less on other people.  Celebrate EVERY win no matter how insignificant you think it may be.  You finally created and printed that biz card?  Celebrate.  You survived your first networking event? Party up!   You landed your first client?  Break out those champagne glasses!


  1. Be confident.  Be happy with your humble beginnings.  Even experts had to start from somewhere.  Be okay with that and take small, doable steps towards your goals.  Believe in yourself to know that even though you are not where you are, you will be if you remain persistent about reaching your goal and consistent in your methods.


  1.  Repeat.  There may be times where you would be tempted to go back to the negative self-talk and compare yourself to people that’s been doing this a little longer than you or someone that seems to be further along than you.  Shut that down and remember the next thing YOU have to do.  Make it doable so you can get ready to celebrate that win.


The more you focus on you, the more you can actually become successful because you’re focusing on your own success and become unbothered by the success of the next woman.


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